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An extramarital affair is one of the most painful experiences that couples face.

Types of Extramarital affairs

Extramarital affairs are loaded with romanticism, morality, mythology, and intense emotions. They're not really about sex, but about pain and fear and the desire to feel alive. They're also about betrayal. Most people enter marriage believing they would never have an affair. A great many of them have one or more affairs. Before you can decide what to do with the affair in your life you need to know what it means. These are the different types of Extramarital affairs:

Conflict Avoidance Extramarital affairs

Extramarital affair Conflict Avoiders are nice ?? they're terrified to be anything but nice, for fear that conflict will lead to abandonment or losing control. They don't have a way to stand up to each other when there's a problem, so they can't resolve their difference and the marriage erodes. An "equal opportunity" affair.

Intimacy Avoidance Extramarital affairs

Intimacy Avoiders Extramarital affairs are frightened of getting too close, so they keep the barriers high between them. Conflict is one barrier, affairs are another. Their emotional connection with each other is through frequent and intense conflict. Often, each spouse becomes involved in an Extramarital affairs. These couples are the mirror opposite of the Conflict Avoiders.

Sexual Addiction Extramarital affairs

Sexual Addicts use sex over and over again to numb inner pain and emptiness, much like alcoholics use alcohol. Among married people, men are likely to have Extramarital affairs more often than women.

Split Self Extramarital affairs

The Split Selves have tried to do marriage right. Both spouses have sacrificed their own feelings and needs to take care of others, and the deprivation has caught up with one of them. The Extramarital affairs is serious, long-term and passionate. The spouse who is having the Extramarital affairs focuses on deciding between the marriage and the affair partner and avoids looking at the inner split. Most often this is a man's affair, but these Extramarital affairs may be changing.

Exit Extramarital affairs

Extramarital affairs Exiters are Conflict Avoiders at heart, but they take it further. One spouse has already decided to leave the marriage and the Extramarital affairs provides the justification. The other partner usually blames the Extramarital affairs rather than looking at how their marriage got to this point. Another "equal opportunity" affair.

Why do people have Extramarital affairs?

We always hope a relationship will last for life, but because we still carry our Extramarital affairs with other people, there is a possibility that we will meet someone attractive or seductive during our life span. We may have better control resisting the Extramarital affairs while we are on top, but when we are down, with less self-control, we are most likely to fail. Sometimes this is just a way of revenge, or proving we are still attractive, but this type of behavior could be fatal. Most people set a deadline to their relationship, one affair will surpass the deadline and end the relationship right away, and they won't accept any explanation, apology or give them another chance.
Either of you may be blocked by obstacles, confused by temptation, or caught by a trap. Should the other one give your falling mate a hand, to walk through the obstacles together, to bear your crosses, to learn from mistakes and be smarter and better next time, or just leave him or her inside the trap after one fall, and then walk your own path. We are now living in the new millenium, and should have thinking of the new age. We can see the world is joining together, the European has successfully form the EU, and different countries or corporations are learning to combine into bigger forces. The majority of our civilized countries are learning and rectifying from past mistakes, feuds and stupid wars, then how can our marriages swim against the current? It may not be easy to find out the right causes of each mistake, it may not be easy to rectify a past error, but we shouldn't let anything get us down.